How often do you ask yourself these questions… What is it going to take for me to recover? What tools or actions will actually help me to get there? How am I going to get from where I am now to where I want to be? Who can help me? When am I going to recover? Will it ever happen?
Is it weekly, or is it more like daily? If it’s daily, it’s okay! I absolutely understand! I, too, used to ask myself these questions on a daily basis. And it makes sense, because you just want to have it all figured out and stop struggling with the anxious thoughts, the symptoms, panic, and fears!
But when we consume ourselves with the what, how, who, and when, we end up completely overlooking our WHY - why we're working so hard to heal and overcome. Don't get me wrong, the others are important, but if you don't stop to acknowledge why you're working so hard to recover it's going to make your journey even harder. Because the truth is, when we have a why, it's a motivator. It's something that helps to push us when the what, how, who, and when is unclear.
When somebody asks you to do something, you likely want to know the why you're doing it, right? And this is especially true when somebody asks you to do something that might seem undesirable in the moment. My daughter, Amelia, just recently turned 3. And when she was 2-2 1/2, I could ask her to do nearly anything and she'd just do it (even most times with a smile). Now, there is often a "Why?" Whether it's me asking her to get dressed, or to pick up her toys, or to get in the car. She insists on knowing the why. And it makes sense. I mean, how often do you do something without knowing why you're doing it?